Do Something Random
We, humans, are creatures of habits. We tend to do the same things at the same times in the same ways. This is comfortable. This is easy.
This is…boring.
And boring is bad for our brains. Our brains need exercise and new gives this important part of us a great and fun workout.
So do something random today.
Listen to a new-to-you radio station for a song or two. Pick up a book from a library’s display table. Take your guidance system’s most fuel economic route home. Go into the vegetable section of your grocery store and buy one of whatever vegetable is located in the fifth bin to the right of the romaine lettuce.
Embrace the chaos of random comfortably. (smiles) Your brain will love you for this!
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Love Is A Safe Space
The Dear Wonderful Hubby and I fell in love at first sight and many decades later, we are still very much in love.
People have asked me how I knew it was love.
My answer usually is…if you wonder whether or not it is love, it likely isn’t love.
When you experience it, you KNOW.
But the big tip was…I immediately felt safe with him.
He felt like the home, the sanctuary I never had. I could relax with him. I could TRUST him.
And this was unprecedented for me as I rarely feel safe. Anywhere. With anyone.
I grew up a daughter of abuse and I have been betrayed and hurt far too much to ever trust easily.
Yet I trusted the (now) Dear Wonderful Hubby. I knew he wouldn’t hurt me.
(I still didn’t let down my guard for years after meeting him because…well…I didn’t even trust myself or my own judgment and I didn’t think someone could be as nice as the Dear Wonderful Hubby truly is.)
My trust in the Dear Wonderful Hubby was also unusual because, while the Dear Wonderful Hubby is a very kind man, he doesn’t seem like a safe person when people first meet him. He’s very physical (is never still) and often sarcastic and fairly…intense.
But my soul knew. And eventually my brain figured this out also.
Love is a safe space.
If you don’t feel safe, you likely don’t feel love.
And you deserve to feel love, my friends. (big hugs)
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Do What Makes You Happy
A dear loved one still has her Christmas lights up inside her home.
Yes, at the end of February.
These Christmas lights make her so very happy. And having them up doesn’t hurt anyone.
So why not keep them up?
Happiness is precious. If something makes you happy and doesn’t hurt anyone else, embrace it!
The people who love you, once they know it makes you happy, will be happy for you.
The other people…well…they don’t have the good sense to love you so clearly their opinion isn’t worth much, is it?
(grins)
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Send A Note To A Loved One
It is the end of February, usually a very dark time for those of us in the Northern Hemisphere. Some of your loved ones are feeling this darkness also.
Consider sending them a note, either snail mail, email, message, or some other way.
Consider it even more if this loved one commented on the Holiday Card you sent them in 2025. That was a ‘request’ for more letters, more communications, more love from you.
The note doesn’t have to be long. It could simply say, “I was thinking of you today and I wanted you to know you are loved.” or it could simply be a sharing of a very bad pun. (grins)
The important thing is…
Our loved ones feel loved.
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Restart The Cyborg World
It has been almost 11 years since I first published Releasing Rage and it is even more relevant today, unfortunately, than it was then.
Consider rereading the stories in the Cyborg World, starting with Releasing Rage. I can almost guarantee you’ll have new insights around them now.
And consider recommending them to a friend. (Ensure they won’t be triggered by them first!) Give them that joy also.
Half Man. Half Machine. All Hers.
Rage, the Humanoid Alliance’s most primitive cyborg, has two goals—kill all of the humans on his battle station and escape to the Homeland. The warrior has seen the darkness in others and in himself. He believes that’s all he’s been programmed to experience.
Until he meets Joan.
Joan, the battle station’s first female engineer, has one goal—survive long enough to help the big sexy cyborg plotting to kill her. Rage might not trust her but he wants her. She sees the passion in his eyes, the caring in his battle-worn hands, the gruff emotion in his voice.
When Joan survives the unthinkable, Rage’s priorities are tested. Is there enough room in this cyborg’s heart for both love and revenge?
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Cyborg Valentine’s Day Wishes
In the past, I’ve asked the cyborgs, the modified humanoids and the Chameles if they wished to share Valentine’s Day poems with you.
They didn’t quite understand the meaning of the holiday. (grins) But I thought you might enjoy their attempts.
Here’s one from Truth from Testing Truth…
Truth loves his human princess.
They share a link.
For her, he’d do anything
Even wear pink.
***
Here is an interesting one from Cadet from Seizing Power…
The universe is huge.
The size of space is vast.
When Cadet meets Power,
She’ll kick his a$$.
***
This is from all of the cyborgs…
Roses Are Red.
Cyborgs Are Strong.
Choosing One As Your Warrior
Can Never Be Wrong.
***
And here’s a poem from Balvan from Dark Thoughts
Roses are red.
Gatekeepers are green.
Balvan is the biggest male
You have ever seen.
***
And Kralj from Dark Thoughts wrote a poem.
Roses are red.
Rulers don’t rhyme.
If you expect a poem from Kralj,
You’ll be waiting a long time.
***
Have a wonderful day, my friends!
Know that you are much loved.
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Show Love To Yourself
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, which can be a challenging day for many people.
(big hugs)
Long before I met the Dear Wonderful Hubby, I started the tradition of buying myself heart-shaped boxes of chocolates for Valentine’s Day.
This way, I knew I would always receive something.
I would always feel the love.
Yes, the love came from myself. But that’s the absolute best place for it to come from. (smiles) I truly believe we have to love ourselves before we can love someone else.
And we are worthy of love. We’re strong. We have survived this far so, of course, we’re strong. We’re caring. Anyone reading or writing romance cares. A lot. And we value caring. We value love.
So show yourself some love today.
Buy yourself a heart-shaped box of chocolates. Pick a rose (from your garden or the florists) for your kitchen table. Stick an ‘I love you’ note on your mirror so you see this first thing in the morning.
And remember
You ARE loved.
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Your Sanctuary
We all need a sanctuary, especially during challenging times like these. We need a place we can escape to that is…well…it doesn’t have to be happy but it should be serene and conflict-free.
Some people have claimed groups like Romancelandia (the fellowship of romance novel readers, writers and others) or gardening groups or friend groups as their sanctuaries.
These are great. But I highly recommend also having a sanctuary with very few people in it. Because people, during challenging times, often carry their worries and their challenges with them.
So maybe if you have Romancelandia as a sanctuary, you also have a reading nook (or your sweet loving bed – grins) in your home, where you can escape and read beloved romance novels.
If you have a gardening group as a sanctuary, you also have a place in your garden or a plant-filled spot in your home you can retreat to and refill your emotional well.
We can have multiple sanctuaries! And sometimes these are needed!
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If You’re Ever Feeling Sad Or Lonely
Years ago, while the Dear Wonderful Hubby and I were waiting for someone, we watched a man wander along a sidewalk, picking up cigarette butts that might have one or two more puffs in them.
Whenever this man found a good one, a long cigarette butt, one that would give him a half decent smoke, he’d chortle with glee.
My friends, the sound coming out of his mouth was pure unfiltered happiness.
It was a joy to hear.
And now, many, MANY years later, whenever the Dear Wonderful Hubby and I see a half decently long cigarette butt, we think of him.
Recently, someone tossed a half-smoked cigarette on the ground.
The Dear Wonderful Hubby looked at it, looked at me, grinned and said, “He’d really like that one.”
(smiles)
Think of how many small seemingly insignificant interactions we have with people every day.
We hold a door open for a stranger. Someone hears our laugh across a crowded store. A person passes by us on the sidewalk while we’re smiling down at our phones. A writer reads our 5 star review of their book.
We might have touched those people’s lives profoundly, left a lasting positive impression and we didn’t even realize it.
So if you ever feel sad or lonely,
know that someone in this wonderful world is thinking of you at this exact moment.
It likely won’t be someone YOU remember
but they remember you
and they’re smiling as they’re doing so.
(smiles)
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Send Short Notes
In the past, I thought I had to send long letters or emails to loved ones.
I didn’t have time for that. So I’d put it off. And letters and emails would never be sent.
Now, I know that a short letter or email is MUCH better than no letter or email at all.
I have a collection of pretty little notecards I send via snail mail.
These short notes say, ‘I’m thinking of you.’ and ‘I care about you.’
And that is truly the goal of the communication.
I want the loved one to know they are loved. They aren’t alone. I’m there for them whenever they need me.
Send that short note or email.
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