Have Purpose
The Dear Wonderful Hubby and I are happy people. We’re not happy all the time. That’s impossible to do. But we’re happy for a significant portion of the day.
And one of the many reasons I think we’re happy is we both have purpose.
We like to support the bumblebees, as one small example. We plant flowers they’ll like. We care for our yard in a way that will help the bees.
And this makes us happy. Because we feel like we’re making a difference in the world and especially in THEIR worlds.
Have a purpose. This could be to make someone smile every day. Or to support a local library. Or to keep your neighborhood clean of trash. Or to be the best furbaby mommy on the planet.
We all need purpose. Give yourself one.
(smiles)
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Recap The Wonderful
The Dear Wonderful Hubby and I have a routine.
At the end of the day, we recap all of the wonderful things we’ve experienced that day.
We’ll talk about the bees we’ve spotted, the jokes we’ve shared, the people we’ve connected happily with, the food we’ve enjoyed, everything that brought us joy.
The wonderful thing about this routine is…
You don’t need another person to do this with. You can recap the wonderful with your furbaby or your plant or your image in the mirror.
I can guarantee this will increase your joy and gratitude and isn’t THAT a wonderful thing?
(smiles)
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Your Feelings Are Never Wrong
You – “I’m sad.”
Your Friend – “You shouldn’t feel sad. You have (this) and (this) and (this).”
Our loved ones mean well when they respond like this. They want to ‘fix’ our feelings. They love us and they want us only to experience happiness.
But we are feeling the way we are for a reason. The feelings we’re having aren’t wrong…for US.
Sure, we can try to change them. When I feel stressed, for example, I go out into the garden and look at the greenery. That reduces my stress.
Sometimes, however, I just allow myself to FEEL. I have sad moments. I have angry moments. I have worried moments.
Loved ones might not understand why I have these moments but consciously or subconsciously I know why and these are legit and right emotions for ME.
We are complex beings. We have complex feelings.
These feelings are never wrong.
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Celebrate Everything
(These two butterflies are definitely celebrating. – grins)
Today is the last day of the sixth month of 2026. It is roughly halfway through the year.
The Dear Wonderful Hubby and I are having a mini (low carb) cake to celebrate.
Because we can. And because we take any excuse to celebrate.
Life is worth celebrating, my friends. Every day is a special occasion.
And that deserves cake.
(smiles)
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Simply Enjoy Things
I sometimes don’t discuss things I’ve enjoyed, like movies or books or gardening, with others. At least not immediately.
Because I don’t want to analyze those joys. I don’t want to debate whether or not I should enjoy them. I don’t want to hear all the reasons the other person didn’t like those things.
I want to simply enjoy them. I want to turn off my brain a bit and feel.
It is okay. No, it is more than okay. It is GOOD to simply enjoy things.
To look at a sunset and not worry about the storm brewing miles away. To smell a flower and not think about whether or not they are native to our areas. To read a great romance novel and not ponder if it is advancing the genre.
Simply enjoy some things, my friends.
Allow yourself that happiness.
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Being Alone Vs Being Lonely
I’m an extreme introvert. I prefer to stay in, rather than go out.
Almost everywhere is too peoply for me.
(grins)
I get a lot of pressure from extroverts (other than my Dear Wonderful Hubby who now understands and accepts me) and…well…society to go out, be with people, be social.
(grimaces)
They associate being alone with being lonely.
Which makes me a bit sad for them.
Because those two things are not the same. At all.
I’m usually not lonely when I’m alone. I know there are other people out there in the world. I know I can associate with them if I want. That’s as easy as standing in my front yard for a couple minutes.
I LOVE being alone. And it is a choice I make. Often.
I spend the time happily reading or mucking around in the garden or watching the Colin Firth Pride And Prejudice for the gazillionth time.
(smiles)
It is glorious.
If you feel lonely, yes, take action. Go to the library and talk with people. Pick up a phone and call a friend. Volunteer at a food bank. Chat with the cashier at the grocery store.
If you are alone and you are enjoying being alone, know that it is okay.
No, it is more than okay. It is a wonderful life experience. Relish it. Savor it.
Ignore the extroverts and be happy.
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Make A Budget Meal A Comfort Food
I grew up very poor. Every meal we had was a budget meal.
But some meals (like spaghetti noodles with a little bit of tomato sauce) were always associated with happiness, with celebration, with fun and laughter.
And now, when I need comfort, I make those ‘budget meals.’
Because they aren’t budget meals in my mind. They are comfort meals, happy meals, meals that remind me of fun and laughter and they make me feel smile when I eat them.
We can all do this.
A budget friendly soup can become a comfort meal, a source of happiness, if we always pair it with bad joke telling. A stir fry made from leftover, wilting vegetables can be a celebration if we always cook and serve it to music.
Associate joy with a budget friendly meal and, during tough times, that joy will remain.
This is an investment in future you. And future you deserves this happiness.
(smiles)
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Find Beauty In The Darkness
It is really easy to see beauty in sunny, well-lit places.
It is much more challenging to see it in the darkness.
But it is there, my friends.
Beauty is all around us. It is in the sparkle of the stars above our heads. It is in the curve of a tree branch as it crosses our view in front of a full moon. It is in the flash of lightning across a stormy sky. It is in the reflection of light in a loved one’s eyes.
Find the beauty in your darkness.
(smiles)
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Delight In Small Wonders
Some people only celebrate big events – birthdays, graduations, new jobs, vacations, others. They hinge much of their joy around these events or achievements.
I celebrate just about everything.
(grins)
I believe a great life is a combination of small joys, tiny wonders, little bits of happiness.
I saw a ladybug yesterday, for example, and that spotting delighted me. I was smiling for hours.
The Dear Wonderful Hubby sang in the shower this morning. He does this when he’s super happy. That put me in a great mood also.
Sure, the world is far from perfect.
(laughs)
But allow yourself to be happy, to be amazed, to revel in small wonders.
You deserve that joy!
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Stop And Look Around You
The Dear Wonderful Hubby and I were strolling along a pier in a smaller town near the southern tip of Argentina.
We looked down and saw these two cute little friends (I think they’re seals).
Many people walked by them AND us. Some of these people had stickers on their shirts which indicated they had been on tours, tours they had paid for, tours that likely took them out to seen animals like these, tours that might not have been successful in that mission.
Here were two of the creatures they wanted to see.
And they didn’t see them.
Because these tour takers weren’t looking around them. They were focused on their destination.
Every so often, if you have a spare minute, stop and look around you. Notice the plants. Look up at the sky. Search for the unusual. Enjoy the wonder.
That might be the best one minute you’ve ever experienced.
(smiles)
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